Valentine’s Day, But Make It About You: A Self-Love Celebration
Valentine’s Day. The holiday that paints the town red with heart-shaped chocolates, overpriced roses, and social media love fests. But what if, instead of waiting for someone else to celebrate you, you made this day about you?
Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, self-love is the foundation for every healthy connection you’ll ever have. So, let’s flip the script on Valentine’s Day and turn it into a celebration of you—because, honestly, you deserve it.
Why Self-Love Matters (Even If You’re in a Relationship)
Pop culture has long sold us the idea that love is something we receive—cue the rom-com grand gestures and “you complete me” speeches. But real, lasting love? It starts from within.
Psychology backs this up. Studies on self-compassion (Neff, 2003) show that people who practice self-love have stronger relationships because they’re not relying on their partners for validation. Meanwhile, Attachment Theory tells us that the more secure we feel within ourselves, the healthier our relationships become.
So, whether you’re spending this Valentine’s Day solo or with someone special, here’s how to make it about you.
1. Buy Yourself Flowers (Miley Cyrus Was Onto Something)
Science says flowers actually boost mood and reduce stress (Journal of Environmental Psychology, 2005). So why wait for someone else to send them? Buy yourself a bouquet that makes you smile—extra points if you get the fancy ones just because.
2. Write a Love Letter… to Yourself
When was the last time you really appreciated yourself? Grab a pen and write a letter listing everything you admire about yourself.
Your resilience.
The way you make people laugh.
That thing you overcame that once felt impossible.
Seal it and open it next Valentine’s Day. (Or on a bad day when you need a reminder of how amazing you are.)
3. Take Yourself on a Date
Romanticising your life isn’t about waiting for a partner to plan the perfect date. It’s about doing the things you love, just for you.
Fancy dinner? Book it.
Movie night? Go solo and order all the snacks.
Spa day? Treat yourself like the royalty you are.
4. Celebrate Your Wins (Big or Small)
You don’t need a relationship milestone to celebrate yourself. Did you crush a work project? Get through a tough week? Finally start that hobby you’ve been putting off? Pour the champagne (or kombucha) and toast to yourself.
5. Create a Love List
List 10 things that make you feel loved—by yourself, by others, by life. Maybe it’s morning coffee in your favourite mug, dancing in your kitchen, or deep convos with friends. Do more of that.
The Takeaway: Love Yourself, Always
This Valentine’s Day, whether you’re single or coupled up, remember: You are your longest relationship. Treat yourself with the same love and care you’d want from a partner.
And if you’re ready to dive deeper into self-love, confidence, and creating the relationships you truly deserve, let’s talk. Book a session with me, and let’s turn self-love into your superpower.
With love,
Tammy Biton