Self-doubt is like that one friend who always shows up uninvited, eats all your snacks, and whispers things like, "Are you sure you're good enough?" But here’s the thing—self-doubt isn’t a reflection of your true capabilities. It’s often a well-rehearsed script passed down through unconscious patterns we’ve absorbed over time.

So, how do we rewrite the narrative and move from self-doubt to self-love? Let’s unpack the science, the psychology, and the magic of transforming our inner world.

Valentine’s Day. The holiday that paints the town red with heart-shaped chocolates, overpriced roses, and social media love fests. But what if, instead of waiting for someone else to celebrate you, you made this day about you?

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, self-love is the foundation for every healthy connection you’ll ever have. So, let’s flip the script on Valentine’s Day and turn it into a celebration of you—because, honestly, you deserve it.

Healing inner child wounds is much like recovering from a broken leg. The initial pain is intense, the healing process is slow, and even after the bone has mended, there are days when the ache resurfaces. Maybe it’s a shift in the weather, a misstep, or simply an old pattern resurfacing—but the discomfort reminds you that something was once broken.

Breakups can make you feel like you’ve lost all sense of direction. One day, you’re confidently picking out your favourite coffee order; the next, you’re questioning if you can even be trusted to choose the right Netflix show.

When a relationship ends—whether it was a committed partnership, a confusing situationship, or an unfulfilled romantic hope—you’re not just losing a person. You’re grieving the dreams, the future you imagined, and even parts of yourself that were wrapped up in that connection. Understanding this grief process can help you navigate it with more self-compassion and intention.

Let’s break down the five stages of grief in the context of love, why each stage is so painful, and how you can support yourself through it.

Dating has never been easy. Whether it’s finding someone who actually wants the same things as you, dealing with ghosting, or realising your type might not be all that compatible with you—these challenges aren’t new. The difference now? We’ve added apps, algorithms, and endless choice into the mix.

So, how do you date smarter in a world where you can be swiping one minute and deleted the next?

Imagine you’re in a car, barrelling down the highway. The road is bumpy, the turns unexpected, and every so often, a storm rolls in, making it hard to see ahead. Now, here’s the real question: Are you gripping the steering wheel, adjusting as you go, or are you slumped in the passenger seat, watching life happen to you?

Emotional intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together. It’s what allows partners to feel deeply connected, seen, and safe with one another. While physical attraction and shared interests are important, true closeness is built through emotional openness and vulnerability. Research in psychology and neuroscience confirms that strong emotional bonds contribute to long-term relationship satisfaction, increased trust, and overall well-being.

In relationships, generosity is a beautiful thing. But when giving becomes excessive, draining, or one-sided, it can leave you feeling exhausted, unappreciated, and even resentful. Over-giving often stems from a deeper desire for love, validation, or security—but at what cost? If you find yourself constantly prioritising others’ needs at the expense of your own, it’s time to take a closer look at your patterns.

Trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, but when it’s broken, it leaves behind fractures that aren’t easily mended. The responsibility for repair lies with the one who broke it, but rebuilding isn’t an overnight process. So, what does the science say about how long it takes? What actions actually help? And what about those lingering feelings of betrayal—do we just ‘get over it’?

We’ve all heard the phrase “What’s meant for you won’t pass you by.” It’s a comforting thought, right? It takes the pressure off. If it’s truly meant to be, then the universe will conspire to make it happen, and you won’t have to do much beyond showing up. But let’s be real—love isn’t a rom-com where fate conveniently aligns every moment for a perfect ending.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re losing yourself in relationships, constantly worrying about being abandoned or overly focused on meeting someone else’s needs, you might be navigating the tangled web of co-dependence and anxious attachment. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? The constant second-guessing, the overthinking, the emotional rollercoaster. But here’s the good news: it’s possible to break free and create healthier, more fulfilling relationships—starting with the one you have with yourself.

At its core, the "Let Them" theory is about radical acceptance. It’s the practice of allowing people to show you who they are—without trying to control or mould them into who you wish they’d be. If someone cancels plans, doesn’t text back, or prioritises something else over you, you simply let them. Instead of forcing or convincing, you observe their actions, accept them as they are, and make choices based on what aligns with your values and boundaries.

Anxiety has a sneaky way of creeping into our lives, doesn’t it? It shows up as overthinking, that knot in your stomach, or the constant need to prove yourself—even when you’re already enough. What if I told you that self-love coaching could be the game-changer you’ve been looking for? Let’s dive into why.

I recently went through a breakup myself, and let me tell you, the advice came flooding in. But one of the most common things I heard from friends was, “Tammy, just get under someone to get over him.” It’s a classic suggestion, isn’t it? On the surface, it seems simple – distract yourself, feel desired, and move on. But as someone who’s been through the emotional rollercoaster of heartbreak (and as a coach who helps others navigate it), I couldn’t help but wonder: Does it really work?

Let me tell you a secret: Sexy isn’t a size, a number, or a fleeting phase—it’s a state of mind. It’s that feeling when you walk into a room, and heads turn, not because of what you’re wearing, but because you’ve got that unmistakable I-know-who-I-am-and-I’m-damn-proud energy. Sexy isn’t something you chase; it’s something you uncover, polish, and flaunt like a diamond that’s always been there.

Ah, resentment. The silent relationship killer that sneaks in when we’re not looking, quietly building walls between us and the ones we love. It’s like that guest who overstays their welcome and eats all the snacks. But fear not! With a sprinkle of self-awareness and a dash of intentional action, you can move past resentment and rediscover the connection you once had. Ready? Let’s dive in.

As we move through life, many of us unconsciously carry patterns from our past—habits, beliefs, and emotional triggers—that shape how we show up in relationships, work, and even in how we see ourselves. One of the most pervasive patterns is the belief that we are not good enough. It’s like an invisible script playing in the background of our minds, telling us that we don’t measure up, that we don’t deserve love, success, or happiness. This belief, which often stems from childhood experiences, societal pressures, or past relationships, can lead to a lack of self-love, keeping us stuck in cycles of self-doubt, fear of rejection, and unmet potential.

We often hear that relationships are about compromise, giving, and meeting each other halfway. While that’s true, it’s equally important to ensure your own needs are met. After all, a relationship isn’t about losing yourself in the other person; it’s about growing alongside them while staying deeply connected to who you are.

If you’ve ever tuned into Mel Robbins—the powerhouse behind life-changing advice and bestselling books—you might have heard her use the metaphor of being "in the same boat" as her husband. This idea sparked a thought-provoking way to approach relationships: Are you and your partner paddling in unison, or are you each drifting off in opposite directions?